SATURDAY NIGHT IN SEATTLE
There were tons of menz out at The Cuff last night so I, of course, managed to stay completely entertained the entire time I was there . . . which was until about midnight when, fearing I would turn into a pumpkin, I made a mad dash for my illegally parked {like right in the middle of a sidewalk} car and from there to home, my bed, and the Military Channel where they are doing Marine Month and had a show on about Marine Corps Mountain Warfare School that I simply couldn’t miss.
Porn “personality” and Seattle resident Tony Buff, in the buff.
Anyway, as I said, there were tons of menz including fetish porn appearer Tony Buff whom I met and chatted with.
Tony was there with his “Boy” — who was substantially older than he and which I TOTALLY don’t get. I mean he’s not your boy when he looks as if he has an AARP card in his wallet and collects social security.
The “boy” was wearing a shirt that had “Buff’s Boy” emblazoned across the back. Cute! {ish} — the shirt that is, and if you’re into legible clothing — and which was designed, I assume, to remind either Mr. Buff or the “boy” who the wearer was and to whom he belonged.
Which is handy I guess, if you’re forgetful and all.
Tony seemed like a charming enough sort, introducing himself and calling me sir. Charming that is until he decided it was time to extemporaneously smack around his “Boy” a bit for some infraction of protocol either real or imagined.
This was done in full view of all the club patrons — which, I guess is the whole point isn’t it? To do something like that in public I mean. Its sort of like being a three year old and jumping up and down at a restaurant while screaming at your parents, “Look at me! Look at me!”
Tony and a very naughty boy.
I guess the offense committed by the legible clothing wearing miscreant wasn’t egregious enough in the eyes of Mr. Buff to warrant a full-on bitch slapping or better yet, beating, so it ended as quickly as it began.
Pity, because I was getting all comfortable hoping for a free floor show.
January 3rd, 2010 at 8:50 am
I just am not sure what to make of Tony Buff. I think I suffer from cognitive dissonance on this matter. On one hand, he is most definitely a hot man and, you know, whatever floats his boat. On the other, he seems to take this BDSM stuff so seriously and it seems a little ridiculous; his writing doesn’t really indicate a sense of humor. (I’m guessing the older dude is Derek DeSilva, who he works with in some Titan movies. And, yes, that pairing is sort of like when Julia Roberts and Lyle Lovett were together, a little mystifying.) Recently read that Tony says he is bisexual as well. Which I am not sure I buy, as much as he out with men.
I was just reminded of Bette Midler talking about S&M and all the required accoutrement in one of her old shows: “And you know you’re never going to get invited anywhere, because everyone knows you’re gonna drag all that shit with you.”
January 3rd, 2010 at 9:27 am
I imagine that the “boy” might be, ummm, compensating Mr. Buff for his services. Not that there’s anything wrong with that.
January 3rd, 2010 at 9:33 am
I mean he’s not your boy when he looks as if he has an AARP card in his wallet and collects social security.
LOL! Yep! You are evil. I like that about you.
January 3rd, 2010 at 11:28 am
he seems to take this BDSM stuff so seriously and it seems a little ridiculous; his writing doesn’t really indicate a sense of humor.
I think it’s the difference between your Inferno crowd and your yearly IML. Those who know what they are doing do not show boat. Then there are those who want to put on a floor show and win a beauty pageant.
January 3rd, 2010 at 12:13 pm
Oh, I don’t know about that Teddy. I know A LOT of boys from Inferno who enjoyed nothing more than to stage little impromptu “shows” at the LURE. It was all very “look at me” because lets face it, if you’re doing it for an audience, even if that audience is at a retreat in a small Michigan town and composed of like minded individuals, then you’re doing it for the approval of others and thus, showboating.
January 3rd, 2010 at 12:36 pm
Well attention is attention, but the attitudes for doing it are different.
I have done my time with demos on stage at Mr. Mid-Atlantic Leather and John was a serious Inferno junkie. I remember one time after spending all night doing MAL as a Centaur the very next day I was in Full Dress Blues standing watch at The Navy Yard. My days as a freaking schizophrenic.
There is still a difference between the two to me. Staging something specifically for the audience is very different than doing something as part of an event like Inferno where impromptu scenes are expected and encouraged. Maybe it is just the vibe or the acceptance or the expectation but two different things in my mind.
January 3rd, 2010 at 2:46 pm
Was at a private party in Chicago when they (Tony and Derek) came in and turned off whatever video was playing so that they could watch their own video. Yes, very much “Look at me, look at me”. Sometimes wonder who the show is for. Have not seen the substance either.
January 3rd, 2010 at 3:09 pm
I, too, think the “boy” was a client or sugar daddy (sugar baby?)
—-Ah, would that it had been Brad Pitt, and you posted photos!
January 3rd, 2010 at 5:15 pm
The Boy was probably Derek DaSilva. I’m pretty sure that he’s in Seattle to ring in the New Year with Mr. Buff. They’re a cute couple, and Derek DaSilva is one sick puppy (in a good way), so he probably thought the public drubbing was hot. You should look on YouTube for his holiday video; he “electroshocks” his Christmas tree. It’s adorable. Let’s try to be a little less ageist in our thinking, Scott; it ain’t like you aren’t getting the Early Bird special these days, is it?
I do know what you mean, Dan; if you read Tony Buff (and I obviously do, since I know where he is and who he’s with via his Twitter), you get the impression of someone who hasn’t a single ounce of humor. But I have to say every interview and video of him I’ve seen seems to belay that. I think he does take leather rather seriously, which is good from a health and safety POV, but isn’t very good at communicating about it without sounding like he has a stick up his ass.
I’ve always thought that if you met him Scott, you’d either get along famously (he’s a Marine, too) or hate each other.
January 3rd, 2010 at 7:58 pm
You must have left before the CBT show -that one I don’t get -though it was so much fun watching my husband take it all in. I had to explain to him what he was seeing -someone willingly allowing their balls to be smashed in repeatedly… not sure if it was his boy he was playing with or another participant…
Saw you as you were walking out and wanted to introduce myself, but wasn’t sure if that would seem a) weird b) fauning c) stalkery (new word?) d) all of the above.
January 3rd, 2010 at 8:14 pm
Fasten your seatbelts! If “Mstr.” Buff gives as good as he gets, we’ve got a leather Davis/Crawford situation here.
January 3rd, 2010 at 8:15 pm
PS – I’m not saying that you’re not right. He TOTALLY seems like an attention whore.
January 3rd, 2010 at 10:04 pm
Sean you should definitely have introduced yourself. I know I would have liked to meet a BIE regular and Steven and Brent always like meeting people who read the blog too since they’re both regular readers.
January 4th, 2010 at 3:33 am
I don’t know – having been an owned slaved by a true Sir and not a “performing leather queen” – he would NEVER have done something like that – he just wouldve let me know what I was in for when we got home. I think there are some attention deficit issues here… PS Scott mate – 2 Cents is ONE YEAR OLD !! How cool huh? I am as giddy as a newly out Aussie boy at a gay rodeo
January 4th, 2010 at 11:00 am
They are a couple, and actually when off stage a sweet couple at that. Personally i always find that when someone complains about a younger top and an older bottom that they are just bitchy jelous queens. A relationship is a relationship, and if the couple is happy, no one really has the right to judge them, but humans, and especially gay men (or name the reality based housewives TV show of your choice) can often be petty because their own lives lack something.
Tony does have a sense of humor and is well educated, you dont see that part of him in interviews at all, however he can be a bit full of himself. He is an extreem player, and that always does put me off. Part of being an extreem player is the “come look at what we are doing” thing (it borders on performance art). Being the slave in a Master/slave relationship, i dont ever really recall myself, or anyone else in over 25 years being publically punished for a “social error” unless it was for thier own pleasure (which is not a bad thing if that is thier thing). He has done this public corretion at Inferno as well, so it is part of thier lifestyle.
January 4th, 2010 at 1:56 pm
Nipper I’ve reread my post and every single one of the comments and I’m trying to find where anyone “complained” about a younger top and older bottom. In fact, I myself have been in exactly that sort of relationship in the past. My point was simply that if you look like you should have grandchildren then “Boy” is a total fucking misnomer. So try reading the post and all the comments again Nipper — only this time with just a tad more comprehension.
And as for judging them — well, I most heartily disafuckinggree with you there Nipper, because when someone behaves in public in a manner that is calculated to interfere with other people — as slapping around your boyfriend at the front bar of The Cuff at 10 PM on a Saturday night is clearly calculated to do {and did} — then I’ve got every right in the world to judge, and judge harshly if I so choose.
That’s the problem with the extreme community Nipper — because they think that just because they like what they do the rest of us want to see them doing it. And nothing could be further from the truth. And THAT too is worthy of being judged about because when you bring your private life out into the public arena and throw it in people’s faces without first asking their permission then they have every right to judge you for what you do. Because by bringing your private life into the public sphere you’ve fucking asked to be judged Nipper!
January 4th, 2010 at 5:38 pm
That is da Silva. There are a lot of photos of him around showing those back tattoos. On his MySpace page, da Silva wrote that he “came of age in the 80s.” So, if he reached 21 in 1980, he would be 50 or 51 now, but if he became a man as late as 1989, he could be 41-42. I agree with Scott, though, da Silva does look older. Buff was born in 1970, the Internet says–in my hometown, Pittsburgh. The age difference is at most 10 years, but can we assume everyone is telling the truth about their age?